Cooperation breeds organization and organization breeds respect.
Create an enthusiastic atmosphere with your children. How do you do that? Have your children exited about rewards they will get if they clean up their rooms, keep the house tidy and do their chores. Let them know that they are appreciated and how a family is a co-operative unit for the survival of everyone. Bring this across to them in a number of ways. They will feel loved and a valuable member of the family. Teach them to earn their place by being a contributing part of it.
What is the first step?
Bring together a system of effective control using earned rewards and praise which is very precise and reliable for all involved.
Devise a point system that adds up to an allowance that lets kids spend their money the way they want to. They love this! This empowers them! If they want that trip to the roller rink or some other new possession that is really important to them, they know getting it will be a direct result of their efforts. This teaches them value for your efforts.
Be encouraging. Do not make them feel poorly if they mess up, but when they do, absolutely, take the reward points away. Let them know there is always next time, and let them know they can do better, but do not sway in your position. It has to be as real as if they were going to a real job and being paid for their production. The rules agreed to have to be kept, no matter what and they have to know it's firm. It has to directly affect what they consider to be important to them and in how they are directly affected by it.
Those well-to-do families and their kids have so much - too much! It's all there without any effort on their parts, and they dont have to earn a thing. They just take it all for granted. Make incentives that are particularly important to them and let them learn the lesson that participation equals real reward.
Tasks to earn rewards can change, week by week, and with multiple kids the highest point winner can take the pick of the favorite chores and the lowest point winner gets the ones that are left over. Make it a realistic approach for each child according to age and ability to have their fair chance to win.
Consult your childs interests for best effect.
Do they have their own reasons and incentive to keep their bedrooms and the play areas clean? Talk it over with them; ask them for examples of how it could be more meaningful for them. Gently guide them to discover for themselves what reasons the clean room, etc. would serve their best needs.
Personalize. Personalize. Personalize.
If they want to earn extra points to gain something special or to catch up if behind, make available extra jobs above and beyond the call of duty. This will help them do that, such as taking over one of the parent's tasks for a time or doing a special project for the home and family. As best as possible, make everything personal to your child. They will flourish and you will see how very organized they will become.
Rearing our children is a really tough job. Even miracles can occur with the right attitude, good communication and good systems! Bring up your child to respect you and to earn their way and you will have a naturally organized household.
If you are under a lot of stress, a more passive and relaxing undertaking might be just what you need, at least to start with.
Get Organized Tips
Chances are, you might be spending valuable time getting frustrated over missing items.
Take heart! Your goal is to designate a said place for every item of value in your entire home. Visual memory joggers. Tell yourself (and believe) that some degree of clutter with a child is going to happen no matter what! If you are altogether frank about it, you really do not want a second pair of meddling hands anyway; some chores are best left to only one pair of hands.
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